Mental & Physical

Realities of Abortion

Looking at abortion as intervening in your pregnancy it is important to take a realistic look at what it means to you both physically and mentally.

Make an informed choice

Having an Abortion

Mental Conflicts

Joy & Relief

Many women report relief and joy right after an abortion.
The pending doom that's been laden on her by popular thinking has been removed. So much propaganda goes into the belief that pregnancy means a life is ruined.

A sense of empowerment

Women many times feel empowered by having freedom to take control over their bodies. Their immediate thinking is that they can decide the fate of another and so have control over their own.

Sadness

Many women cry and feel really sad after having an abortion. These emotional feelings are contributed to hormonal fluctuations. But in reality it often continues long after the hormones return to normal.

Grief

For some these feelings overwhelm them immediately. For others who felt very positive in the beginning these feelings come later. This is caused by the reality that an innocent life was taken. All have God's law written in their hearts.

Loss of Dignity

If you consider that abortion is taking the life of your very own child that could have become a human being with its own place in life, you also realize why women lose their dignity which results in more promescuity and abusive relationships.

Denial

Denying the realities of abortion never takes away the emotional scar it leaves with a mother. It robs her of a conscience that is free from the burden of regrets and self-accusations.

More Turmoil

Anxiety
Eating disorders
Drug & Alcohol Abuse
Flash Backs
Sexual Dysfunction
Marital Relationship Problems
Nightmares

Depression

When these realities and emotions remain your constant companions depression follows. Many women remain prisoner to this for fear of coming out with the real cause of their mental struggles.

Suicide

A disregard for 1 life will cause a disregard for other life, even your own. Many women feel so worthless when dark clouds of depression overwhelms them that suicide seems to be the only option.

"How will it feel to go through an abortion?"

According to popular media and abortion clinics going through early first trimester abortion with medication only is likened to a heavy, crampy period. There will be bleeding and cramps. They suggest getting or provide you with painkillers to make cramping bearable. It is described as 2 day procedure.
Surgical procedures are quicker but more invasive. It's done under local or general anesthetic or even without. Still there will be bleeding and cramps. You will be kept for observation at the clinic for about 30 minutes to an hour after the procedure.
Mentally and emotionally the scars of a bleeding heart lasts for years.
Going through a "back-street" abortion there is no telling what you will experience.

"Can anything go wrong?"

Like with all medical procedures whether with medication or surgical, there is always the possibilty of complications both early and later.
Early complications:

Prolonged or heavy bleeding
Extreme cramping
Infection

Long term effects (especially after multiple abortions):

Uterine adhesions
Infertility
Incompetent cervix
Later pregnancies ending in miscarriages, tubal pregnancies or premature birth

"Why is there so many conflicting information?"

Conflict of Interests

Eugenics

abortion may soon be deployed to eradicate babies with some “unwanted” characteristics

Only those with good genes should reproduce.
Babies that are the “wrong” sex are already being aborted, and soon, perhaps abortion will be available to destroy children that will have a propensity for obesity, a likely skin color or other unwanted racial characteristic, perhaps even, if the later adult would be threatened with genetically inheritable disease.
Limit the reproduction of poor and uneducated people because children will perpetuate their problems.
Population control, especially for poor, developing nations is of crucial importance for the preservation of the planet. We are getting too many for the planet. Space and quality of life can be increased with a decrease of population growth

Humanism

quality of life will often trump the preservation of life because all life is not equal.

Seeking to live good lives without God and religious beliefs.
In thinking about abortion a humanist would not always think the unborn as not human and living, but rather weigh the evidence, the probable consequences, and the rights and wishes of everyone involved (though who hears the unborn's opinion?).
They do not think all life is “sacred”, they do respect life, and much in this debate hinges on when one thinks human life begins. Some humanists tend to think that – on the basis of scientific evidence about foetal development – a fetus does not become a person, with its own feelings and rights, until well after conception and even delivery.

~ British Humanist Association: "A humanist discussion for abortion"

Liberalism

So what if abortion ends life? I believe that life starts at conception. And it’s never stopped me from being pro-choice

A fetus can be a human life without having the same rights as the woman in whose body it resides. She's the boss. Her life and what is right for her circumstances and her health should automatically trump the rights of the non-autonomous entity inside of her. Always.
I would put the life of a mother over the life of a fetus every single time -- even if I still need to acknowledge my conviction that the fetus is indeed a life. A life worth sacrificing.
"Some argue that abortion takes lives, but I know that abortion saves lives, too... not just in the most medically literal way, but in the roads that women who have choice then get to go down, in the possibilities for them and for their families.

~ Mary Elizabeth Williams "So what if abortion ends life?"

Christianity

Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written

The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom
Beliefs life begins at conception.
Values human life and the preservation of it because it's created by God being yet in the womb.
God clearly condemns murder.
Values family as instituted by God for protection, care & love of every human being.
God has made the earth to be inhabited and commanded man to fill it.
The church is given the commission to care for the poor, widow and orphan.
God will supply our needs.
Suffering for the Christian is not a loss because they look forward to a heavenly eternity without suffering and pain.
God is not the author of sin and each man and woman must reap what they sow.
Every knee shall bow and every tongue shall confess to God

Therefore pride compasseth them about as a chain; violence covereth them as a garment.
Their eyes stand out with fatness: they have more than heart could wish. They are corrupt, and speak wickedly concerning oppression: they speak loftily.
They set their mouth against the heavens, and their tongue walketh through the earth....
And they say, How doth God know? and is there knowledge in the most High? Behold, these are the ungodly, who prosper in the world; they increase in riches.

When I thought to know this, it was too painful for me;
Until I went into the sanctuary of God; then understood I their end.
Surely thou didst set them in slippery places: thou castedst them down into destruction.
How are they brought into desolation, as in a moment! they are utterly consumed with terrors. As a dream when one awaketh; so, O Lord, when thou awakest, thou shalt despise their image.
~ Psa 73:6-12, 16-20

Final Thoughts

Those who promote abortion as your choice many times give you no real choice at all but only pressure to conform to their thinking.

The best place to be is where you can make a sober choice if all options are made known and available to you

If you are told by those who are supposed to care for you that they can't help you with this child but the choice is yours are they really giving you a choice?

On the other hand if you were told that you and your baby would be cared for, protected, loved and provided for, would death still be your choice?

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